How do I do what I really want to do?
Growing up people always told me you can be whoever you want to be. You can do whatever you want to do. You can literally “have it all”, but the tragic time in life hits when you are over-committed, doing jobs halfway. You are living life like a zombie and chugging down any caffeine you can find, just so you can function in everyday life. You become so tired you don’t even realize what you are missing out on, from trying to “do it all.”
The unpleasant and uncomfortable day hits like an unsuspecting rain storm on a warm summer day.
A friend asks you to coffee, you rearrange your schedule 10 times, just so you can make it work (because to be real, you could use 5 more cups of coffee). You sit down, you seem tired so you slug down a cup of coffee, and you feel energy fueling through your body again. Your friend is sitting across from you and just watching in disbelief, so they finally drop the atomic bomb on you…“YOU CANNOT HAVE IT ALL!”
That my friend, is tough to hear. In your heart you know it is true. The work you have been doing is sloppy and half completed. You’ve seen the simple mistakes you have made in your spreadsheets, you missed an important meeting with clients, and your friends think you died (besides seeing an occasional social media update).
I like to think I am an invincible superhuman who CAN do it ALL. But if I am being 100% raw, I can’t (if you are wondering, I do die a little inside even saying or admitting that).
I will make this simple for you. It all boils down to one word. SACRIFICE.
Sacrifice: the act of giving up something that you want to keep especially in order to get or do something else or to help someone.
But how do you know what to give up and what to keep in your life? Spend some time and look at your 1 year goals, 5 year goals, 10 year goals, & 50 year goals. Figuring out what your top goal for 5 years drastically changes what you do with your time. Knowing how much time you want to spend on business, work, helping others, friends, personal development, and family will be life changing. When I know I spend 5% of my week on personal development, I can read a book in whatever I choose without guilt. This enables me to be guilt free at the end of the week, knowing I spent a certain amount of time in each area. It also enables me to decline many things, because it does not push me toward the goals I am aiming toward.
“Whenever you see a successful person you only see the public glories, never the private sacrifices to reach them.” –Vaibhav Shah
Keep in mind, you do make sacrifices everyday in life. Thinking through what your goal is will enable you to make wise decisions that will empower you to succeed in the areas you are most passionate about.
So I have some homework for you. Think and dream this weekend about what your passion, calling, and goals will be. Once you have that completed, you can sacrifice certain things, in order to succeed in your true passion and calling.
Have a wonderful Friday!